Friendship (Dostee)
From the very childhood, thousands of friends have come in my life. Some stayed in days, some in months, some in years and some are for life long. ‘A man is known by the company he keeps.’ Man is a social animal. He cannot survive alone. From the very birth, a child is very dependent on its mother and surrounding persons. The newborn progeny of animals begins to walk after a few hours, but human infants cannot. Until so many years, he is dependent on the society. Even after attaining maturity, he is unable to live alone except some extraordinary cases. Saints and sanyasins come in this exceptional category.
Trust and respect are the prime criteria for a friendship to last long. You can say that wife is the very friend who lasts long life. She is more than a friend and life partner. She is called ‘ardhangini’, the half part of the body. But, there are certain wives which are more than enemies and even they try to kill their spouses. They are few and should not be taken for example. There were friends who sacrificed their lives for their friends. Remember the character of ‘Jay’ in
the film ‘Sholay’. Head and tail tosses were only to pretend for one-sided sacrifice for one’s friend. This was disclosed after Jay’s death and this sacrifice led the respect and depth of friendship to the climax. People say that friendship develops and becomes stable between equals. This may be true for worldly-wise friends. When we talk of devotional friends, this measurement is not true. Equality has been taken for give and take equally. When I think only to give, this definition does not fit appropriate. Krishna and Sudaamaa were not equal but their friendship is immortal all the time. 
This type of friendship is the rarest. Worldly people cannot think of such type of friendship. Devotee and his deity are such type of friends. Meera-krishna, Raadhaa-Krishna can be put in this type. Our friendship is based on selfishness and thought of getting return. I see a person making so many friends in a few days, then starting quarreling with everyone one by one and making everyone his enemy in a few days. There is another person who is very choosy and talks with a few persons cautiously. After some days chooses a person of his nature and makes him his friend. Now the second man has one good friend and several familiars but no enemy. Now judge,who is in better position. When I find that, my friend is of no use or he can demand something, I break relationship. ‘A friend in need is a friend indeed.’ A true friend is another form of self. To find a person who should be similar to my nature is rare. Perhaps due to this very thought, Bapu (Gandhi) has suggested to lead the life without friend. If it becomes essential, only one friend is enough. Good wishes to all my friends on this friendship day the 1st Sunday of August (7th August) 2011.-------------------------Namo Bhagvate Sri Ramanay.
From the very childhood, thousands of friends have come in my life. Some stayed in days, some in months, some in years and some are for life long. ‘A man is known by the company he keeps.’ Man is a social animal. He cannot survive alone. From the very birth, a child is very dependent on its mother and surrounding persons. The newborn progeny of animals begins to walk after a few hours, but human infants cannot. Until so many years, he is dependent on the society. Even after attaining maturity, he is unable to live alone except some extraordinary cases. Saints and sanyasins come in this exceptional category.
Trust and respect are the prime criteria for a friendship to last long. You can say that wife is the very friend who lasts long life. She is more than a friend and life partner. She is called ‘ardhangini’, the half part of the body. But, there are certain wives which are more than enemies and even they try to kill their spouses. They are few and should not be taken for example. There were friends who sacrificed their lives for their friends. Remember the character of ‘Jay’ in
the film ‘Sholay’. Head and tail tosses were only to pretend for one-sided sacrifice for one’s friend. This was disclosed after Jay’s death and this sacrifice led the respect and depth of friendship to the climax. People say that friendship develops and becomes stable between equals. This may be true for worldly-wise friends. When we talk of devotional friends, this measurement is not true. Equality has been taken for give and take equally. When I think only to give, this definition does not fit appropriate. Krishna and Sudaamaa were not equal but their friendship is immortal all the time. This type of friendship is the rarest. Worldly people cannot think of such type of friendship. Devotee and his deity are such type of friends. Meera-krishna, Raadhaa-Krishna can be put in this type. Our friendship is based on selfishness and thought of getting return. I see a person making so many friends in a few days, then starting quarreling with everyone one by one and making everyone his enemy in a few days. There is another person who is very choosy and talks with a few persons cautiously. After some days chooses a person of his nature and makes him his friend. Now the second man has one good friend and several familiars but no enemy. Now judge,who is in better position. When I find that, my friend is of no use or he can demand something, I break relationship. ‘A friend in need is a friend indeed.’ A true friend is another form of self. To find a person who should be similar to my nature is rare. Perhaps due to this very thought, Bapu (Gandhi) has suggested to lead the life without friend. If it becomes essential, only one friend is enough. Good wishes to all my friends on this friendship day the 1st Sunday of August (7th August) 2011.-------------------------Namo Bhagvate Sri Ramanay.
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