NILU `S MOTHER

She is a very pious lady. One can say her rarest rare. There is some devine qualities in her. In some cases she is far ahead than me. She is away from selfishness. She honors others more than her children and her husband which differentiates her from other lady. She is very hungry of love. Far away from ego, she becomes friendly even with servants. When she goes home, ladies of nearby houses gather around her and shares their joys and sorrows with her. She also goes deep in their problems and tries to short it out. When she cooks some special food, she herself takes a little and distributes major portion of it to others. She hates quarrelling. I have never seen her quarrelling with anybody. She can quarrel only with her husband and children. Like a common woman she loves her mother’s village and the people of that village more than any other place and people of the world respectively. She can believe even upon a child of Belahi. She can tell you the likes and dislikes of each and every person of Belahi even in the sleep.
She is totally egoless. Although being the wife a superintending engineer, mother of three able sons and mother-in-law of two able daughter-in-laws she behaves like a down trodden lady. She has keen interest in cooking. There is special taste in her cooked food. Every person who has tasted her food, praises her. She has got a very hard training of cooking in her primary stages of married life. In those days there was a training course for newly wedded ladies. Ours was a joint family of about twenty five members. When a new lady came, she had to cook food for the whole family until her younger did not come. One can say it a punishment in present context. But when I see today’s ladies paying little attention to cooking and preparing tasteless food, the necessity of old time training at once comes in my mind. She had no mother-in-law. But she has passed more rigorous training course under very tough trainers, her older sister in laws of the age of her mother. I am very much thankful to those ladies under whose rough and tough guidance she learnt so many valuable lessons, i.e hard working, cooking, cleaning the floors and cooking pans, preparation of rice from paddy, making beaten rice, boiling the paddy for ‘usana rice’ and so many important worldly behaviors. Now I can say proudly that she knows our rituals better due to her parents and her old sister in laws. You can learn from her so many old customs which we have totally forgotten, i.e. when to cut nail & hair, when to start for a journey, when to fast, when not to take salt and so many other old traditions. Every woman believes that husbands are fools and no lady should obey them unless certified by mother’s side and she is not exception. ….contd.