‘Bhoomer gareeyasee maataa
swargaat uchchatarah pitaa’. A father never wants to be defeated by anybody in
the universe but his son. I go to my childhood. I was four year old when my
mother died. Only very dim last scene of her (death scene) is in my mind;
nothing else remained in the memory. My father was my mother also. Whenever, he was
away, I was always afraid. In the rural areas, children may remain outside in
daytime; but at night, they must remain in the aangan (inner courtyard) with
female members. Male members and male guests sleep at daalaan (an open house for
male family members and male guests away from courtyard). Against the usual
norms, I always cried to sleep at daalaan with my father. When he went to other
villages, I slept in the aangan. But, I felt very uncomfortable and always afraid of
ghosts in the aangan. With father at daalaan, I was fearless. Perhaps that was
the reason that he always kept me with him even away from home.
Possibly, due to that very reason my nature became like that and even to-day I feel comfortable outside.My father was 'ajaatshatru' (An enemy less person). He was a saint. If somebody hurt him, he never thought for revenge; rather forgiveness was his weapon. I think, I have also inherited that nature. But the nature of a child is based on four matters- Father's nature, mother's nature, surroundings and his self. So, hundred percent is never inherited and that is the difference between my father and my self. Before known and unknown people, my father always used to praise me, which never pleased me and internally that was hurting me. Now, I am a father of three able sons and whenever find chance, never forget to praise them. To-day, I realize his emotions and feel the pleasure of a father while praising his son, especially when his son performs better. --------Father’s day, 16.06.2013
